Saturday, April 19, 2014

Happiness

"You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life" - Albert Camus

Easier said than done, right ladies? Well, maybe not! Just be happy with what you have and always look for the positives or the "up" side. We're too quick to say "that's my luck"... "why me"... "nothing ever goes right". Maybe things are going right, just not the way we'd expect them to and there's nothing wrong with that. Embrace everything with arms wide open, be happy and always find something to bring a smile to your face in every situation. Everyone has hardships, but life really isn't that bad! Just smile and be happy!

Now get out there and enjoy your beautifully, sunny Saturday! And happy Easter to any of you celebrating tomorrow!

Friday, March 21, 2014

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TRY THIS EXERCISE

 I want you all to try this exercise on goals... trust me, I'm practicing what I'm teaching :)

Sit down right now... if you're not already. Grab a piece of paper or open a word document. At the top I want you to write one thing you love about yourself. (Ex - I love that I am crazy, in a good way). Now, underneath that write one thing you are thankful for (Ex - I am thankful for my family). Now, look those two over and really think about what that means to you, chances are they are the two things that help get you through everyday. Now, skip a couple lines and write 1. 2. 3. and then fill in your top 3 BIG goals! ( Ex - I want to go to all 50 states, I want to start my own business, I want to have enough money in the next year and half for a 20% down payment on a house). Look at each of those and think about it... what exactly do you want from it... why do you want to do them... by when.... Skip a couple lines and again write 1. 2. 3. Next to each number write what the goal means to you and why, when you want to do it by, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY... HOW ARE YOU GOING TO DO IT? For a week, I want you to look at these goals everyday and be positive and tell yourself you will do them. After that, keep them in a safe place and refer back to them frequently! Goals are things you set yourself, and only you can maintain them!

Good luck and just remember, you can do it!

I'M BACK!

So it's unfortunately been over 7 months since I last posted on here... I got so wrapped up in a new position at work and the final stages of my Master's program that the "small things" in life got left behind. I didn't have time to study and go take a test to become certified in teaching Group Fitness... I didn't have time to post on a blog... I didn't have to do X, Y, Z. WELL SOMETIMES TOUGH COOKIES! We all have busy lives and it's okay to focus on the most important ones, the big things. I didn't have time to concentrate on work, school, friends, family, group fitness certificates, blogging, sleeping, breathing, all in one day! But it's okay... you have to first do what's important and always leave time for the things that make you happy

I missed blogging and wanted to get back on the horse, so I am! I finished my Master's program and feel more stable with my worflow, so it's time for me to do the things I'm passionate about! So the question is... what are you passionate and what are you doing about it? For instance, I love blogging, I love Zumba and I love decorating. Slowly but surely I'm going to get back into each and put my talents to the work! YOU SHOULD TOO.

I hope you all look forward to the new things that will be on the site, can't wait to share it all with you and don't forget I'm always open to suggestions! :)


Friday, August 16, 2013

A little old but certainly not dated!





I found this great article in People May 2013 edition, titled “TIPS FOR A NEW JOB.” Certainly helpful to a lot of you ASSETS ladies out there. It covers dress code mostly and touches on accessories, appropriateness, hair and make-up.

For dress code it states “Once you’ve been offered a position, inquire with HR about the office’s dress code: Are bare legs okay? What about sleeveless tops? It’s always better to get guidance before you start” (Jennifer Medberry, entrepreneur. Personally, my opinions of dress code are 1). See what everyone else is wearing? If you are comfortable with what everyone else wears, go with that. 2). Dresses/shorts to above the knee, covered toes and shoulders, watch the cleavage and no bellies showing. 3). Dress for the job you want, not the job you have! It’s awesome because my place of work is very casual with dress code in some departments. Most people shoot for jeans and a tee, there’s no pant suit attire so it’s nice to feel comfortable no matter what my look is that day as long as I abide by rule number 2.

Then there is advice for keeping your look “classic.” It says, “Build your wardrobe around timeless pieces like tailored jackets that can be worn all year-round. Stick to buying only a few trendy items each season’ Jennifer Medberry.”

When it comes to accessories, what’s best is “playful extras” as they “Are key to keeping your look fresh. Choose something small but interesting, like a bright pair of heels, a colorful belt or a statement necklace” Carol Semrad, director at large, Chicago Society of Human Resources Management.

“Be comfortable not casual – some offices can be more laidback, but always stay away from things like jean shorts and flip flops. You want to feel good, but you don’t want to look like you’re headed to the beach” Pat Wadors, vice president of Global Talent Organizational at LinkedIn. I couldn’t agree more. Always be sure to be aware of your surroundings. Take notes of a person at work that is professional and looks presentable; try to fit their fashion style and even ask them where they shop.

DON’T BARE TOO MUCH SKIN (You’re at work NOT A CLUB!) “You never want to seem over exposed at work – if you’re going to wear a strappy top because it’s summer and it’s hot out, add a little cardigan to cover your shoulders – and bra straps. Girls tend to dress for the weather and not the office’ Pat Wadors”. When it comes down to it, most offices blare AC all year round and definitely in the Summer, of course this may not be the case for teachers. But always think hm, would I want my grandparents or a religious figure to see me dressed like this? Hm. Chances are NO. Be respectful to yourself and others around you, most importantly dress professionally and save the cute summer tank dresses for going out. And never show bra straps, it’s not classy.

Another point on clothing – make sure it fits well. “The way you feel in your outfit can affect your confidence level. If you’re physically uncomfortable because your clothes are too tight or loose, you’re going to fidget and appear self-conscious’ Pat Wadors”. Not only should you feel “comfortable in your own skin” you need to appear comfortable in your clothing as you want to be as confident as can be.

As far as hair and makeup “go for polished” looks. “Your beauty look should always be pulled-together, but not overdone. Things like heavy makeup or wet hair are major no-nos. It looks like you haven’t taking your job seriously” Carol Semrad. So basically, for makeup go for the less is more look and as with hair, look tidy and put together ladies! AKA no showering 5 minutes before you leave unless you’re hair dries fast and flawlessly.

“Dress like it’s interview day: always err on the side of being overdressed. If you’re just a few months into a new job, you’re still being evaluated, so it’s smart to be more cautious” Pat Wadors.

Friday, August 9, 2013

It's been a while...

Hello world!

It has certainly been a LONG time since I have posted on here. I wanted to post a very interesting site that was brought to my attention recently.

I am currently working on my master's thesis that focuses on women's opinions on bullying in the workplace. My adviser asked me to look at the site http://www.workplacebullying.org/individuals/problem/being-bullied/

Through looking at this site, I found some serious information I would have never imagined. The statistics are insanely high of how much bullying is going on. Also, definitely read the FAQ section on harassment vs. bullying, you'll be surprised. AND NOT IN A GOOD WAY!

Enjoy! And hopefully I'll start posting more again soon!

Stay classy and sassy, confident and driven ladies!

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

MAY ASSETS LADY!


 Lauren Mosko is our May Assets Lady! In being the 7th month of blogging there was no better lady to ring it in! I have known Lauren for just about my whole life and she has always been an inspiration to me. When I was in 5th grade, Lauren was in high school and we danced together at a studio. That’s how our friendship began! Lauren was always one of the sweetest people; she will do whatever she can for someone and would take anyone under her wing. She offers amazing advice after listening intensely and is very knowledgeable when it comes to communicating and managing.
As Lauren and I spent time together at dance we stayed in touch through the years. It ended up being that when I started at Ramapo she told me about the sorority she belonged to and as it turned out, I am now a member of that sorority too!
Lauren is 29 years old and went to Ramapo College of New Jersey for her undergrad degree and Kean University for her graduate degree. Both degrees are in communication. Her current profession is a Program Coordinator at Princeton University and dance teacher at Destin to Dance.
At Ramapo, Lauren was very involved with campus life. She was part of Student Government all 4 years of college, Inter Greek Senate for 3 years and Class President for 1 year. She was a member of the Order Of Omega Greek Honor Society for 2 years and was initiated into Theta Phi Alpha in December 2003 where she has been an Advisory Board member since 2006.
When I asked Lauren what quote she lives by she told me “I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I ended up where I intended to be” and “Nothing great is ever achieved without much enduring.” The 2nd quote is one I follow as well as it is our sorority motto. The first quote speaks wisdom and a lot about Lauren. She always aims to do her best and pushes others to their full potential giving them support all the way. I can see how this quote exudes through here every being. Lauren has always been very involved in everything she does. It is nice to have someone in my life like her.
So what exactly is Lauren’s story? In Lauren’s own words:
I have always been an incredibly involved individ-                      
ual. Growing up I was involved in dance, cheerlead-
ing, girl scouts and numerous clubs.  In school I
was on honor roll and took AP classes in High
School.  After being accepted into Ramapo College
during early decision I started looking into the
different organizations on campus.  I started with
student government my freshman year and continue
 until my senior year.  During my sophomore year I
decided to pledge a sorority.  I truly feel that joining
a sorority made me who I am today.  Before pledging
I never saw myself as the leader of an organization.
I feel my time in the sorority gave me more
confidence and brought me out of my shell.  During my
time as a collegiate member I served as different
chairs as well as an executive board member.  I also
was very involved in the Inter Greek Senate, serving
as vice president and president my junior and senior
years. 
After college I stayed active with the sorority
through the advisory board, where I am a member
today.  I held several different jobs after college
ranging from administrative assistant at a candy
company to PR and marketing director of a chamber
of commerce.  A few years after graduating I was laid
off from my job due to the recession, I took this
opportunity to further my education.  I received my
certificate in conflict resolution and my Masters in
communication.  Upon graduation I took a position at
Rutgers University in development.  I discovered that
I loved working in the higher education setting but
development was not my strength.  When I was offered
an opportunity to work at Princeton University I quickly
took it.  Now I am working in the field of
communications and doing something I enjoy!  It took
some time to get to the place where I am working in
the field I majored in and somewhere I really like, but
it was well worth the wait.  I never had intended to join
a sorority or go to grad school.  Looking back those were
two of the best decisions I made.  Not only did I become
a strong person because of them, I opened new doors for
myself.  I also made some wonderful friends along the
way!
          As usual, I asked Lauren where she sees herself in a year, 5 years and 10 years because as we all know by now…SETTING GOALS IS HUGE! One must have direction and steer themselves on a path so that when they meet it they feel accomplished.
So then where does Lauren see her life going? Lauren sees herself “staying in higher education and truly enjoy the University and department” she is at now. I am currently in.  She hopes to “continue working in this setting as well as achieving personal goals such as becoming a wife and mother.” 
          Of course, I love to know what the monthly ASSETS lady advice would be to all of us. Lauren suggested “Don’t give up on your goals, it may take time but eventually you will achieve them.  Do the things you are afraid of, I was terrified to go back to school but it really made me more marketable.  Ask questions and for help, utilize family and friends as resources.  Always send thank you notes after an interview.” I literally could not agree more or could have said it better!  
I just want to take a moment to thank Lauren for her awesome insight and thank of all you for supporting the sight and spreading the word to help young women become the best they can be. As I say “Be the best you, you want to be!” Thank you again Lauren! Please feel free to contact Lauren with any questions by the below information.

LinkedIn: Lauren Mosko
Twitter: @STARLMR